People who have a very high self-esteem are often targeted by others who do not, but why? Why can’t people let others live and continue to be happy with themselves? Why should ? They should one who has confidence feel guilty at all?

I have come to the conclusion that the reason that my self-confidence is targeted all of the time is because of jealousy, plain and simple. People see someone with natural assurance and they try to take that away from them. Without self-confidence, life is very hard to get through. Insecurities are tightened and they can take over.

There is such thing as fake confidence, the kind that makes one seem rude and stuck up. Oftentimes this a just a front for people who are actually insecure. These people put on an act that they constantly put on to seem tough, but it often comes off as rude and unapproachable. In many cases, something that has happened or is currently happening has made them guarded, and they use mock self-confidence to defend that. Those who employ this type of confidence are quite different from those with true self-confidence, but, for some reason, they often get confused. I’m not sure if it is because I am a girl, but I have never witnessed guys picking on each other because of their confidence.

Instead of knocking someone’s confidence, we should see the value in it. Everyone should aspire to have self-confidence; to feel like they belong and have value. So many people rely on their friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, peers, and others to boost their confidence, but in the end you must be able to depend on yourself. Can you be content with just yourself? If you answered no to this, there is an issue. You are obviously aware of what confidence is, but you are just getting it from the wrong place. Confidence starts within you. No one else is able to give that to you. For some, establishing self-confidence is a day-to-day work in progress, while for others they have it from birth.

Self-confidence should not be criticized, because it is a beautiful thing. What should be looked down upon is insecurities, not the people with insecurities. Insecurities are nasty, and they eat away at people, causing them stress. Insecurities are what people, as a whole, should be trying to get rid of and overcome.

Rather than wasting time trying to knock down someone’s self-confidence, we should use that time to build up others who have insecurities. Helping those who lack self-confidence to see their greatness  and their value is what we should spend our time on.